Have you ever wondered why your spouse just can not seem to understand you? Or seriously why did he just say that - doesn't he love me? If he loved me, he never would have said that. The Language of Love & Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs is an excellent resource on cracking the communication code with your mate. Dr. Eggerichs share some great tips to teach a couple on how a couple can better understand each other by using each individual's language - respect for him and love for her.
There are many times when I look at my husband after he has said something and to be honest, I am thinking – “What planet does he live on? How on earth was what he just said loving?” I respond wrongly and disrespectfully because I am hurt and he has no clue why I did so and then he ends up defensive and hurt. By this time, we have ended up on a crazy cycle of being upset at each other and have no idea why.
Dr. Eggerichs really helped to see my husband in a different light. I learned how to say things so that my husband does not take that I am disrespecting him but rather showing respect for him. It’s not in what I say, it is in how I say it. There have been many times where I have been able to diffuse a situation by putting the great tips that Love & Respect has to say.
I would highly recommend this book to any couple who finds themselves misunderstanding each other. You can purchase The Language of Love & Respect from Amazon.com.
Disclosure: I received this book free from Thomas Nelson Publishers as part of their BookSneeze.com